Honouring Deceased Loved Ones

October 15, 2016 by Delwyn2

Wedding Ceremonies are not always just smiles and fun. Tears of joy are sometimes shared with tears of remembrance and sorrow. As a marriage celebrant it is sometimes not easy to walk that fine line of including and honouring deceased loved ones in a wedding ceremony and creating a joyful and fun celebration for the bridal couple.

Sometimes, if the pain is still very close to the heart, it might be an idea to include the loved one in a less obvious way but still in a very personal manner. Here are some lovely, tried and trusted ways to include those who cannot be with you in person on your wedding day.

A Chair with Photo and/or Flowers – this is a lovely, quiet way of showing all the guests that you are missing a loved one at your wedding ceremony.

Something Sewn into your Dress – sew a photo or a piece of jewellery, your granny’s wedding ring for example, into your wedding dress and if you don’t want it to show it can be sewn into the under-garments.


Photos Hanging in Trees or a Frame – Another lovely way to include all the people dear to you, but who can’t be there in person, in your wedding ceremony. It’s a great way to make sure they are in many of the photos too!

Send Lit Lanterns or Balloons with Names – launch these either onto a calm water surface or into the sky. Just remember with this one, it can be harmful to birdlife and animals.

Table with Photos and Lit lantern with Sign and Flowers – in a small ceremony, during the wedding ceremony, the lantern is lit in loving memory of those who are to be honoured.

Bouquet with Charms with Photos – this is a lovely way to honour loved ones as it can still be seen but in a very quiet and personal way.

Cufflinks with Photos – An excellent way for a groom to honour his Mum or Dad or grandparents, or anyone special to him.

Donate to Particular Charity – In lieu of favours, you can make donations to the charity of your choice, which may reflect a particular loss in your family or circle of friends. A little sign helps inform your guests: “In lieu of favours, donations have been given in honour of those who share this day with us in spirit.”



  • Anthea

    October 16, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    Such a lovely post about a very special topic. You’re a lovely, thoughtful celebrant.

    • Delwyn Klevenow

      May 23, 2017 at 9:32 am

      Thanks Anthea 🙂

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